After a day of further thought and the ordering thereof, I have decided to add five more premises to my earlier thesis.
Premise 4: Love is selfless.
Love requires commitment and sacrifice especially on your part. Personally, I have only one thing to say about this: I can give up anything that stands in the way of my relationship but I will not demand the same thing of another. This is the selflessness I demand of myself, but not from anyone else.
Premise 5: Love is blind.
Forgive and forget. Frankly, just do it. If you cannot forgive your partner right now, you won't be able to live with him/her for the rest of your life. Are you dead? No? Then it doesn't matter. If what she did didn't kill you, it's alright. If what she did killed you, it wouldn't matter anyway and besides, she already wouldn't be able to forgive herself. Why add to her burden? Your objective here is to love her and make her feel cared for.
Premise 6: Love is fresh.
Also known as love is a many-splendored thing. Wake up everyday thinking of how to treat your partner better. Be innovative in love. Go to bed wondering if you made her feel bad anytime today and how to avoid it the next time. Love should be a fresh and delectable dish. Caesar's salad, if you will.
Premise 7: Love must achieve happiness.
All's well that end's well. If you don't feel happy, drop the relationship. A relationship without happiness is not a joy but a bondage. If you do feel happy, make sure that your partner is happy too. Happiness must be shared, bringing the relationship closer and closer as time goes by.
Having said that, however...
Premise 8: Love is a journey.
Enjoy yourself on this journey. If you're only looking at your girlfriend with the sole intention to make her your wife, readjust your priorities. If you don't, you're going to wake up on the morning after your marriage and not love her the same way anymore. This is an extremely common happening, leading to all those jokes about how partners treat each other differently after the marriage, wherein the guy no longer holds the door open for the girl, and wherein the girl often grouse at the guy. If you don't enjoy the journey, you're bound to not enjoy the end.
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